Years ago, after several tragedies struck my life in quick succession, I woke up every morning convinced I wouldn’t survive the day. First, my father ended his life in a way that pulled me directly into the horror of it.
Soon after, my marriage began to fall apart. The man I loved deeply was slipping away, and the pain of that loss (on top of everything else) felt like more than any heart could carry.
I was an atheist then, and the darkness swallowed me whole. I sank into a depression so heavy that hope felt like a cruel joke. Most days I stayed in bed. On the days I managed to get up, I simply went through the motions. One morning, when the despair felt bottomless, a dear friend looked me in the eyes and said,
“Ronda, you don’t have to feel better today. You don’t have to fix everything right now. Just Poco a Poco—little by little—do the very best you can today.” Poco a Poco.
Those three words became my lifeline. They gave me permission to stop staring at the mountain of pain and simply take one tiny step forward—one shower, one load of laundry, one walk around the block, one honest prayer when I finally met Jesus years later. I learned something astonishing: even the most overwhelming problems surrender when we meet them one small, faithful movement at a time. Now, as a born-again believer and a Christian counselor, I see “Poco a Poco” with new eyes. It’s no longer just good psychology—it’s the gentle rhythm of grace. Jesus Himself taught it: “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” (Matthew 6:34) Want to get healthy? You don’t have to overhaul your entire life today—just swap one soda for water.
Buried in debt? You don’t have to pay it all off this month—just start one new habit that moves the needle.
Grieving, anxious, or depressed? You don’t have to feel whole today—just breathe, cry out to God, and do the next small thing in front of you. Many of the people who find their way to Christian counseling feel exactly the way I did back then: certain the darkness will never lift. I get to sit with them and remind them—gently, week after week—that healing happens Poco a Poco. One honest and honest conversation, one prayer, one tiny victory at a time. If you’re in that place today—if the weight feels unbearable and tomorrow looks impossible—please hear this from someone who’s walked through the valley and come out the other side:
You don’t have to fix everything today.
You only have to take the next small step with Jesus beside you. And if you need someone to walk with you as you take those steps, I’m here. Through faith-based counseling we can move forward together—little by little—until the light breaks through again. Poco a Poco, friend.
This, too, shall pass. And one day you’ll look back and be amazed at how far grace has carried you.
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