WHAT TO EXPECT
Most of us don’t seek therapy when we are happy and our lives are running smoothly. Are you feeling trapped in a life that is joyless or downright miserable? If so, I can help you create a happier life.
How will therapy improve your quality of living and ease your suffering? We will work together to build on your strengths, increase your ability to be honest with yourself and others, challenge illogical thought processes which lead to stagnation and pain, improve your self-esteem, and reduce behaviors which sabotage your happiness. If you’re struggling with relationships, we will find out why and I will help you develop the tools that are necessary to create fulfilling relationships, and potentially help you recognize and get out of toxic or abusive relationships.
When you are in therapy with me you will likely feel like you are talking with a very close confidant whom you trust implicitly. I will challenge you to be honest with yourself and to change negative patterns, while supporting you and empathizing with your pain .
Many therapists feel that it is inappropriate for a counselor to share anything personal with their clients. My approach is distinctly different. I believe that therapy should feel like a relationship. This doesn’t mean that we will have a relationship outside the therapy office (this is harmful to clients and against the therapist’s code of ethics) but it does mean that I will share my experiences with you in situations where I believe that my transparency will help you. If you are willing to do the work, with me by your side, you will see results.
If you are struggling to get through each day, for whatever reasons, therapy can help. You can make the choice to stop suffering and start living. You get one life; don’t passively throw it away.
A CASE STUDY
Years ago a couple came to me for marriage counseling after they had already physically separated and were on the verge of divorce. They had been to seven different therapists over the course of their twenty-three year marriage and nothing had worked. Needless to say, when they started counseling with me they had little hope. Prior to physically separating, they were fighting constantly, miscommunicating, and living like roommates instead of best friends and lovers. When they came into my office that first day, the tension was so thick you could cut it with a knife. And yet despite the damage they had both done to their marriage, through hard work in counseling they were able to heal their marriage and fall in love again.