Suffering as a Way to Create a Better Life

When we are in pain, most of us do whatever we can to escape the feeling. While some things that cause us pain are totally outside of our control (and those things must be endured if not accepted) often times we can make changes in our lives that reduce our suffering....

The Healthy Fight

A few years ago a colleague of mine told me to stop writing blogs. She said, “They won’t buy the cow if the milk is free.” I ignored the advice because I highly value blogs, especially where therapists are concerned. Blogs are a way for you to get a feel for the kind...

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My therapeutic approach is direct and strength-based and I use a solution-focused model that puts a priority on real world problem solving. Strengths-based, solution focused counseling is a model that focuses on an individual’s inherent strengths and skills and uses...

The Stress of Divorce

According to the Holmes-Rahe Life Stress Scale, divorce is the second biggest stressor that people experience in their lives, following closely behind the death of a spouse. Given that divorce is such a painful event, it is no surprise that people who are going...

50 Shades of Pain

Content Notice: This blog addresses issues around human sexuality including BDSM and related lifestyle issues. Issues around sexuality impact marriages in myriad ways. Sexual distance within a marriage can arise due to: Poor communication—because it’s difficult to...

Poco a Poco

Years ago I suffered several tragedies within a short period of time. I can remember waking up each morning and thinking I couldn’t get through the day. The first tragedy occurred when my father involved me in his gruesome suicide. Shortly after the loss of my father,...